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I am passionate about Christians sharing their faith with those outside of the family of God.  What I am not a big fan of is doing that without forming a relationship with people.  I am not a fan of individuals pushing Jesus on those outside of God’s grace because I think that just turns people off to Jesus and paints Jesus and Christians in a negative light.  And believe you me we do not need any more negative impressions.

Let me share a real life story with you.  I am standing in line with a friend in Glendale, AZ when a person who I have never met, nor a person who ever even took the time to strike up a conversation with me, reaches over and hands me this pamphlet.  The question on the form in size 24 font reads: Are you 100% sure you will go to heaven?  No soft shoe approach here.  Let’s just get right to the heart of the issue.  Skip the niceties and attack most people at their most vulnerable core.  How sure are you that you are going to heaven?

Honestly, it depends on the day.  Some days God and I are rocking and rolling.  We are gelling at times.  It is like I know exactly what God is thinking and I feel God’s presence clearly.  Other days not so much.  There are times when God feels distant.  It is usually those days when sin gets in the way, and I am wrestling with something I have done to offend Him.  Maybe I was rude to my kids because I was stressed by a major decision coming up and there are not clear answers.  Or it was just one of those days where everything that could go wrong did and that was all before noon.  Things just went downhill from that point on.  So, the heaven question just bugged me.  Why would you start there?  Why plan on my vulnerability?  Why not ease into a profound spiritual conversation?  Are you trying to scare the Hell out me, literally?  That is what the question is all about, how afraid of Hell are you?  Enough to follow the seven easy steps to welcome Jesus into your heart on the following pages?  Faith is not that easy.  If it were, I would encourage every Christian to go to Office Depot and print out thousands of these magical pamphlets, and we can change the world.

Sharing your faith starts with a relationship which this man never wanted to engage in with me.  He sat next to me for lunch and never stopped to come over and ask ”do you have any questions about what I gave you?”  Just suppose this was a divine appointment set up by the Almighty Himself and I was ready to take that leap of faith.  There was no one there to help my jump and provide a soft landing.  All I could think in this was, what about me looked lost?  What about me look like I needed Jesus?  Am I giving off an aura that says, please help me I am lost?  As I stepped back from this experience, I realized how angry the entire encounter made me.  Upon further review, as I drilled down deeper on that emotion, what hit me was that you know nothing about me and you are making assumptions all of which are erroneous. Why didn’t you start a conversation with me?  We could have shared a meaningful moment. Instead, you just made sure by passing out a flyer with your church name and address on it that I will never darken the doors of your building.

Witnessing is all about relationships which take the time to nurture and develop.  I love the story of Philip in Acts.  As an angel of the God moved him, he went out from Jerusalem to Gaza and ran into an Ethiopian, eunuch.  Here is the story.

 “And there was an Ethiopian, a eunuch, a court official of Candace, queen of the Ethiopians, who was in charge of all her treasure. He had come to Jerusalem to worship 28 and was returning, seated in his chariot, and he was reading the prophet, Isaiah. 29 And the Spirit said to Philip, “Go over and join this chariot.” 30 So Philip ran to him and heard him reading Isaiah the prophet and asked, “Do you understand what you are reading?” 31 And he said, “How can I unless someone guides me?” And he invited Philip to come up and sit with him…  35 Then Philip opened his mouth, and beginning with this Scripture; he told him the good news about Jesus. 36 And as they were going along the road they came to some water, and the eunuch said, “See, here is water! What prevents me from being baptized?” Acts 8:27-31, 35-36

 Philip shows us that sharing your faith, is about relationships.  It is about being willing to walk alongside, to answer tough questions and being open to the Holy Spirit’s leading.  My encounter was an opportunity missed.  How in your life is God asking you to be a Philip?  Pray for the chance to build a relationship and get the chance to be a faith sharing blessing to someone.

 

 

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23 responses to “Faith Conversations are So Much More Than a Pamphlet​”

  1. Karen Foster Avatar

    I appreciated this post. 🙂 Relationship is important! These words can also apply to mentoring other Christians.

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    1. Keith Haney Avatar

      I completely agree. Everything we do in life is enhanced with personal authentic relationships

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  2. Rena Brooks Avatar

    Good morning! I enjoyed reading your blog post today. I am new at this as well. Sharing and encouraging others is a ministry. Praying you will continue to walk in your calling.

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    1. Keith Haney Avatar

      Thank you Rena. What a privilege it is for us to be used by God to share the joys of our faith in Jesus with those who have not experienced that joy and peace. Keep writing I will check out your blog.

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  3. Jennifer McKinnie Avatar

    Thank you for sharing this story Keith. This is a problem for so many Christians. We want to go out and spread the news – but we forget that relationship part that MUST come first. You’re right it paints a negative view of Christians as pushy people who only want converts, but are not really willing to walk alongside of them to help them grow. I wish more churches would do teaching on how to build these relationships with people first and how to walk along someone and help them. Great post.

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    1. Keith Haney Avatar

      Thank you Jennifer. You are right that we need to be willing to walk alongside people in their faith journey. The relationships that are formed during that time last for an eternity.

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  4. juantetcts Avatar

    LOVE your viewpoint, thanks for blessing me with it!

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    1. Keith Haney Avatar

      Thank you for that. Those words bless my spirit

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  5. kevindouglasjones Avatar

    I teach our church family that sharing your faith is most productive in an environment where the person respects and trusts you. Relationships are important to God as they should be to us as well.

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    1. Keith Haney Avatar

      That is so key Kevin. Keep up the good work

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  6. harotianessentials Avatar
    harotianessentials

    I agree. It. An definitely be a turn off, especially when you are feeling distant or overwhelmed. I am definitely a work in progress when it comes to talking to people of Jesus for this exact reason. I like to think that’s when the Holy Spirit can step in and say “hey, talk to this person.” But only if it were that easy sometimes lol.

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    1. Keith Haney Avatar

      The key is listening for the opportunity to share your personal faith journey. And avoid a canned prepared response. Left the Holy Spirit guide the conversation.

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  7. Lacey Avatar

    The first paragraph is completely sums it up perfectly. Exactly!

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    1. Keith Haney Avatar

      Thank you.

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  8. Vincent S Artale Jr Avatar

    Reblogged this on Talmidimblogging.

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  9. Laura Avatar

    I really do agree with the concerns of your post, yet I have become less likely to critique different methods of faith sharing, even more abrupt ones like shoving a pamphlet in someone’s hand. As I know multiple cases of where an abrupt method initiated someone’s path to salvation. Like my own husband. There are different personality types, and some individuals need to be startled by a direct/abrupt approach – while other individuals would be very turned off. Etc. Here is a rambling post I once wrote about evangelism methods: https://lightenough.wordpress.com/2015/02/26/evangelism-methods-that-should-never-be-used/

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    1. Keith Haney Avatar

      I agree and I look forward to reading your post.

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  10. Nathi Sbiya Avatar

    Completely agree with the post. What we missing as Christians when it comes to sharing the Gospel of God is the prompting of the Holy Spirit. I mean did God prompt you to share the News with that person. My point is, we should let God use us to share his Gospel, even in Phillip’s case it was the Holy Spirit prompted him to share the News with an Ethiopian and so as Christians of today we need to let God play his role or else sharing our faith to whom ever we wish to share can be in vain.

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  11. Barbara Lane Avatar

    All I can say is AMEN!!!!

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    1. Keith Haney Avatar

      Thank you sister in Christ

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      1. Barbara Lane Avatar

        I also reblogged that on my site – more people need to read that.

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      2. Keith Haney Avatar

        That is greatly appreciated. Thank you 🙏🏿

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  12. Barbara Lane Avatar

    Reblogged this on Grandma's Ramblings and commented:
    This post is SO TRUE! If you want to share your relationship with Jesus – great, but how about working on relationships with those you choose to share with.

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